Cheating is common in many relationships. There are people who cheat in every relationship they’re in, while there are those who slowly find themselves being pulled into the situation. But what tempts people to cheat in the first place?
So you’ve probably done everything in your power to make sure that your partner has everything that they ever need: physically, emotionally, mentally, and sometimes even financially. You tried to be everything your partner wanted and more.
In fact, you thought you were both happy in the relationship… until that text, that phone call, that slip of the tongue, that lingering perfume of another person on the clothes, or that sight of seeing your partner cuddling and kissing another. Suddenly, everything you thought about your relationship is all wrong.
Why do people get tempted to cheat?
Why do they cheat in the first place? After everything, why do so many people still cheat? If these questions are gnawing through you, wonder no more. Here we tackle why people are even tempted to cheat in the first place.
#1 Commitment issues. One of the most obvious reasons why people cheat is because they are not really serious about the relationship. They are not ready or willing to commit to one person yet. They don’t like the feeling of being tied up or settling down with just one person. Therefore, they would still like to relish their freedom by going out with other people—at the expense of the other party who may be more emotionally invested.
#2 Curiosity. There are also some who may be committed to their partner, but somewhere along the way are tempted to cheat out of curiosity. They wanted to see what it’s like to ‘explore other horizons’ just for the sake of finding out how it would feel to date an officemate or that random guy or girl at the bar. Perhaps, it’s the allure of something new and exciting that tempts them to take on what is actually cheating, but for them is merely a challenge.
#3 Need for attention. Perhaps people are tempted to cheat because they inherently want the attention they are getting from other people, like that hottie barista at Starbucks who keeps making their drink extra special with thoughtful notes on the cup, or that corner cubicle colleague whom they’ll go on an out-of-town convention with.
#4 Neglect. There may be times when their partner is actually neglecting them. When certain needs and desires are not met in a relationship, people tend to stray. They may look to other people to help them fill the void that their own partners can’t. However, these people may likely just be focusing on their partner’s shortcomings and can’t see what they have to fix within themselves in the relationship.
#5 Disappointment. There will also be times when people enter relationships with grand, if not unrealistic, expectations about the union and about their partner. They may believe that the relationship would be smooth-sailing, and therefore can’t handle any bumps in the road.
They may also think that their partner is “all that,” but soon, they start to see the flaws their partner has. These quirks then turn them off and make them seek out other people who they think can fill their expectations of what relationships or partners should be.
#6 Lack of appreciation. Being appreciated and acknowledged by another is one of people’s inherent needs, especially in a romantic relationship. This deepens their emotional connection and intimacy. However, when people don’t feel appreciated and validated, this can cause them to grow apart and lose their bond.
As a result, people may tend to wander off and notice other people who show them the appreciation that they can’t get from their own partners.
#7 Lack of intimacy. Intimacy doesn’t just mean sex. Beyond the physical, intimacy is the emotional bond you have with your partner. The lack of emotional intimacy can also be a significant factor why many are tempted to cheat. As people inherently need to be emotionally connected, having a partner who is emotionally distant or unavailable can make them want to be with someone who can fill their needs for intimacy.