If things are getting a little bit staid and uninspiring in the bedroom, here are 20 new things to try in bed that’ll bring the sizzle back instantly!
Bucket lists normally revolve around outdoor activities and lifelong ambitions, but a sexual bucket list is an entirely different creature. Essentially, this is a list of sexual activities that you and your partner have never enjoyed together before, and which you intend to give a try—at least once, that is.
Of course, many sexual activities are quite out there, and you may never have considered them previously. That’s the point. A sexual bucket list is there to encourage you to explore new sexual horizons and, if you don’t normally partake of these activities, introduce yourself to things you might not know you love. Sometimes, however, you might be quite surprised by how much you enjoy something and you may even end up incorporating it into your normal sexual routine.
So, not only do you get a whole new area of sex to enjoy, but there will be the inevitable consequence of trying these activities out: it brings you and your partner closer together, and creates a lot of fun memories, making it a win-win situation all round.
Sexual bucket list: 20 new things worth trying in bed
The following list suggests a number of activities that you can explore and experience together. Don’t be scared to add a few of your own!
#1 Oral. If this is somehow something that you’ve never experienced, then it should be the first activity to try. Seriously, how have you managed to get this far without it? Oral sex is amazing, for all parties, and should be a usual part of any sexual relationship. Give it a try and never turn back.
#2 Massage. Not the kind that jams your arm behind your back and chops at your neck muscles with the force of a jack hammer, but the slow, sensual, and well-oiled kind. This is a subtle and easily-implemented addition to the list.
#3 The darling buds of May. One of the most neglected parts of the body is the nipple. Although they are often ignored, they can be incredibly sensitive, to men as well as women. Try different levels of intensity to see what works, from light licking and squeezing, right through to biting and clamping.
#4 Dressing up. Some costumes and uniforms can be a real turn on. Women often love firemen, policemen, and other authority figures, while guys often love French maids outfits, leather dominatrix costumes, or simple silky adornments. Discuss what works for you and give it a go.
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#5 Dirty talk. Not everyone is comfortable with this to begin with, but letting loose with the potty mouth can be a real turn on for some people—especially during the height of passion.
#6 Fantasy talk. Discussing fantasies mid-act, and talking about the filthiest things your imagination can muster during sex can really get the juices flowing. You don’t have to act upon them—make this clear to each other beforehand—but just airing them is enough to turn a normal lovemaking session into pure dynamite.
#7 Spanking. Perhaps one to go into gently to begin, but if you feel like upping the stakes, then try a firmer hand. Remember, though, that women have fuller posteriors than guys do, and feel the sting less than men. Also remember that guys have bigger, stronger, and rougher hands. Be as appropriate as the situation demands.
#8 Anal. One to go into very carefully, and only if she is very willing and relaxed enough to accept the guy without any damage being done. In a loving, trusting relationship, it can be very enjoyable, but definitely low down on the list of acceptable bedroom activities—especially as far as women are concerned.
#9 Anal, part II. What’s good for the goose is good for the gander. This might seem shocking to many men, but the same pleasures are to be had by both genders, if done properly. Some would argue that anal is even more pleasurable for guys because of the sensitivity of the prostate gland. Try fingers, tongues, vibrators, or even a strap-on if the mood takes you. The same caveat applies as with #8, of course.
#10 Three’s company. If you’re both open-minded enough, try introducing a third person into the bedroom. Just make sure the rules are clear beforehand. For example, whether one of the couple is just to watch, or whether it’s open season for all three.
#11 Group. A full-on swinging session, group sex is pretty much the ultimate sexual sensory experience—just make sure you’re both in full agreement first.
#12 Exhibitionism. This is illegal in many countries, so check first, but revealing your sexual activities to others can be a real turn-on.
#13 Tantra. Inner massage, as some have jokingly named it, tantra takes practice and patience, but can have a hugely successful impact on the quality of your lovemaking.
#14 Frottage. Or to put it in simple terms, rubbing against each other. Skin to skin, and genital to genital, but resisting penetration, frottage can be a very horny way to get the ball rolling.
#15 Role play. Role play links in well with the costume thing, and can be great fun. Policewoman and criminal, teacher and schoolgirl… you decide the scenario. Just make sure it leads to some heated in-between-the-sheets action.
#16 BDSM. A whole subject within itself, BDSM covers a large range of peculiarities. Maybe start off with some restraint and light spanking before hitting the whips, chains, and iron maidens!