Your sex life should never have a checks and balances sheet attached to it, but so many of us use sex as a commodity during arguments or when we want our way. This post from Pulse explains the dangers behind seeing sex as any kind of commodity that can be bought or bartered for, and the benefits of making sex about pleasure, not politics. Some of us don’t even notice when we’re doing it; we want sex and we want it now so we remind our loved one of all the nice things we’ve done for them that week, trying to prove we deserve sex. But thinking of sex as something we owe one another in a relationship can mean bad news, and can even take some of the real fun out of it. You and your partner should be doing nice things for each other just because you want to, not because you think it will get you extra time in bed with them, and sex should be something you do because you both want to, not something you keep hidden away for when they’ve been “good.” Follow this advice and make a pact with your partner: more sex, fewer rules.

Read the full article here: Why Sex Should Never Be Used As Bargaining Chip (A Gentleman’s Guide)