Why do women love the strong silent type? We have the answers to the age-old question, along with how to land yourself a strong silent type.
Let’s face it, we all know the strong silent type. That Mr. Darcy look-a-like, dark and brooding, yet so manly and strong. The kind of man who uses his words carefully, never gossips, never loud, arrogant, or brash. He simply says things when they need to be said. He’s not shy or nervous. He doesn’t stutter or get flustered around women, he just chooses not to talk unless deemed necessary.
What alluring about the strong silent type?
It’s funny when you think about it. On paper that type of guy comes across as kind of rude. If women list the kind of things we like in a guy, we’d probably think good sense of humor, good conversationalist, interested in us, and asks lots of question are all attractive features in a man.
So why would the kind of guy who stays quiet, isn’t overly friendly, stays apart from big groups, and tends not to bother with parties, be someone we find so immediately hot?
Since as long as documented relationships, the strong silent type has been cast as someone women aspire to be with. Indeed, the archetypal strong silent type turns up in many a romance novel as the main love interest. But just what is it about them that we like? Let’s examine the reasons more closely.
#1 The mystery. Particularly at the beginning of relationships, the mystery is what makes everything so exciting. You don’t know much about the other person, and they hardly know you. Every moment you spend together is full of intriguing possibility.
The strong silent type is truly mysterious. They give so little away that it becomes almost agonizing trying to get to know them, to get them to share their secrets, or to tell their story. This also makes the honeymoon period last longer.
As all your past boyfriends spilled their innermost secrets, embarrassing stories, and earthly desires after a couple of mojitos, the strong silent type isn’t giving anything away unless you really, truly work for it. That sense of mystery is naturally very attractive.
#2 The physical attraction. Of course, there is the obvious physical attraction they provide. When we think of the strong silent type we typically think of a man who is lean, muscular, with dark hair and brooding eyes. Now we are not saying that is everyone’s cup of tea, but it certainly sounds alright to us!
Let’s just point out that you aren’t likely to describe an overweight man with bad skin and poor personal hygiene as the strong silent type! Women tend to be more attracted to men who look strong and healthy. It only makes sense that this type of man would be high on any women list.