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Newly in love and itching to gift her lingerie, but not sure how she would take it? Read on as we explore different methods to break the ice.
So, you've got a new girlfriend with a birthday corner and you just feel like buying her lingerie? But again, you are not so sure?
The simple answer is to forget it if you are not sure. But then, you could also lose the opportunity for a great relationship.
You need to understand that women can be complex. And secondly, different women have different personalities. And this means there is no one-size-fits-all solution here. But what then is there?
To avoid missing that opportunity, this post shows you how to validate your new girlfriend. So you can decide if you should give her lingerie or not.
Lingerie For A New Girlfriend?
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The Questions To Ask |
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Taking Action |
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The Bottom Line |
The Questions To Ask
Some women love it when their boyfriends or husbands buy lingerie for them. Many women even yearn for it, as it makes them feel loved, sexy, and appreciated.
Another set of women, however, do not appreciate getting lingerie gifts. For these women, it might either be too tight, uncomfortable, or too coarse on the skin. Some even feel it is a violation of their personal space, while others take it as being sexually objectified.
So, before you move on with your lingerie adventure with the new girlfriend, it's best to first find out a few things about her and where you stand in your relationship. And asking the following questions should be helpful:
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What's Her Emotional Personality? You should have an idea of what she's like by now. Does she laugh at bad jokes or make them personal? Is she uptight and judgmental, or sweet and cuddly? Does she even enjoy getting presents or does it put her on guard that you are after something? The sweeter and friendlier she is, the higher the probability that she will love your lingerie.
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Are You Already Intimate Or Not? If you are already physically intimate with her, then there's a higher possibility that she will be okay with it.
- Is The Relationship Weird Or Happy & Healthy? If something is disturbing you about her or your relationship, something that you just can't put the finger on, then it might be a good idea to stay away from lingerie first. Until you figure things out. However, if everything is going great or you even have that feeling that she will love it, then go for it.
Taking Action
Now that you've decided to get her some lingerie, your next step is to guarantee a successful occasion. The truth here is that many things can go wrong. And while many women are forgiving and will just pretend and get along, others might feel deeper disappointment.
To avoid these pitfalls, here are 3 good tips:
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Tip 1. Establish Communication – This is very important for a healthy relationship, especially now that you are considering getting her lingerie. So, except you plan on surprising her with the lingerie, try to talk it over with her first. See what she thinks about dressing up for you. What are her favorite colors and style? Does she love lace, strings, stockings, or something else? Just talk about it.
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Tip 2. Size Does Matter – This is where most men get it wrong, but you can do better. Check her wardrobe if you must, look her underwear over and get the right size. Some women will even get jealous when you gift them smaller-sized lingerie, because it feels like you prefer petite ladies. And when you give a bigger size, then you think they are fat. So, don't make this mistake.
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Tip 3. Consider a Less Sexual Approach – A nightie or lounge-wear gift is also romantic. But it comes without clear suggestions of sex. This is for those who are not so sure about going all out with sexy underwear for a new girlfriend. But if she likes it, then you can plan for better stuff.
The Bottom Line
In the end, it's all about letting her know that you think she is sexy. Lingerie insinuates sex and every woman wants to be desired. So, it's a win-win situation for the couple, because the wearer gets to be admired and the buyer enjoys the show.
Finally, good romance involves multiple senses. So, while thinking about the right lingerie to highlight her best features, also consider her desires and show her that you are thinking of her. It could be extra treats just for her – like chocolates, perfume, a surprise date, a romantic getaway, etc.