It can be confusing to know whether a guy just wants a casual hook up or if he wants to date you. Here are 11 signs he’s ready to make it official.
The first stages of seeing someone can be awesome. You’re flirting, you meet up, you get excited, happy, nervous, and feel butterflies every time your phone beeps and it’s him. But after a while, you’ll want to know if it’s going anywhere or not.
Does he like you? Signs to know for sure
It’s great to take things slow, but if you’ve gotten to the stage where you are ready to kick things up a notch, yet you’re unsure of whether or not he feels the same, you’ll want to find out for sure so can figure out whether it’s time to get serious or to get rid of him! Read on to find out the telltale signs that a guy wants to date you.
#1 He’s always getting in touch. If a guy is calling and texting you a lot, it’s a clear sign that he’s into you. There is a difference between a guy who gives you eight missed calls after midnight because he’s looking for a hookup and the one who texts you, unprompted, in the middle of the day just to see how you are doing.
Getting in touch with you often shows that you’re genuinely on his mind and that he’s thinking about you and not any other women. If he’s gotten to that point, then it’s probably because he wants to date you for real.
#2 He’s interested in you. A guy who wants to date you will want to know all about you. If your conversations haven’t moved on from outrageous flirting or just silly fun, then he probably isn’t ready or interested enough to take things further.
If he initiates conversations where he asks you a lot of questions about your life *your work, friends, and family* and is genuinely interested in your answers, then it’s probably because he wants to get to know you better and see if the two of you might be compatible after all.
#3 He’s only got eyes for you. There’s nothing worse than going on a date with a guy whose eyes wander, checking out other women when he thinks you’re not looking, or, worse still, brazenly flirts with them in front of your face. The same goes for the guy who seems to constantly check his phone when he’s out with you.
A guy who has decided that he wants to date you won’t be interested in other women – he won’t talk about them, he won’t hook up with them, and he won’t brag about his other conquests, past or present.
#4 He takes it slowly. There’s nothing wrong with hooking up on a first date. But the truth is, if a guy is interested in something more than sex, he’ll be willing to wait because he thinks you’re well worth it.
Guys wanting a casual hookup try to turn the conversation that way as quickly as possible. If he’s constantly talking about sex, then it’s unlikely that he’s thinking about you in a long-term way. Guys who want to date you will respect you, and they’ll be happy to go at your pace.
#5 He’s been there, done that. Guys who want a girlfriend often make it pretty obvious that they feel that way. If he talks about being done with the casual dating game, then he probably is.
It may take them a bit longer, but guys do eventually get to the point where they’re sick of the bachelor lifestyle. It might have been fun for a while, but once they’ve met a girl who really means something to them, they realize how much better being in a loving and committed relationship can be.
#6 He wants you to meet all his friends. Guys who introduce you to their friends are seeking their approval. If he wants to show you off to his friends, he not only obviously likes you enough to think you’ll get along with them, but he also wants them to tell him how great you are.
#7 He wants you to meet his family. Another surefire sign that a guy wants to date you is if he introduces you to his family. This is a serious move, and if he’s asking you to do it, he probably thinks quite highly of you and wants to show you that he’s serious about you and wants to take that next step
#8 He gets a bit nervous. If you’ve been seeing each other for a while and he has always been pretty sure of himself, but then suddenly starts to get a bit nervous and flustered around you, it’s probably because he wants to officially ask you out but isn’t exactly sure how to do it.
#9 He romances you. Guys after a casual hookup aren’t interested in wining and dining the women they’re with. If a guy thinks of thoughtful, romantic dates to go on that he knows you’ll love, he is doing so to show you how serious he is about you and that he’s willing to spend time doing things that you’ll enjoy.
#10 He’s affectionate… in public. If a guy is into you, he won’t care who knows about it. In fact, he’ll want to sing it from the rooftops *okay, maybe that’s a bit over the top, but you get the idea*.