Almost everything you do for the first time can be hard. It can give you a range of overwhelming emotions: fear, apprehension, worry, insecurity, excitement, joy, relief, and so many more.
The same thing can be said when it comes to your first kiss.
But hey, we all have to do it at some point in our lives, whether with some random person, your partner, or your friend. It is part of our learning process, and it paves the way for romantic relationships to blossom.
However, the tricky thing about kissing is that it always seems like the first time, every time we kiss a new person. The same exhilarating, thrilling, and nerve-wracking feeling is still there, your palms still get sweaty, your heart races, and you’re back to your fumbling self even if you’ve kissed a few “frogs” *pardon the pun* before this one.
So to help you get your act together for all those first kisses you’re about to have, whether it is your actual first kiss or you’re kissing someone new for the first time, we give you the ultimate guide to smooching your way into your lover’s heart—or at least make your first kiss exceptionally memorable.
The ultimate guide to that amazing first kiss
Before we delve deeper into how exactly you should kiss your lover, you first have to be acquainted with the types of kisses you might be getting yourself into once you put your pucker out there.
The Intro Kiss
The Intro Kiss is the first kiss you’ll really ever have, whether your lips are truly, absolutely virgins or you are just about to kiss someone new for the first time. Don’t let the name fool you. This type of kiss can happen as a greeting, a goodbye, or just a way to gauge your chemistry mid-date. Whatever it is, it is called as such because it’s a way for you to get a good sense of how the other person kisses and vice versa.
Here’s how to do it:
#1 When the time is right *and you’ll know it*, especially when your partner is leaning close to you, meet them halfway.
#2 Just when you’re both about to close the distance, in that split-second moment, close your eyes.
#3 Tilt your head slowly to one side, right or left. Just make sure your partner is tilting on the opposite side. This prevents your noses from colliding against each other before your lips meet. If you don’t know which way your partner is going to tilt, the best way is to tilt right.
#4 Gently touch your lips to your partner’s lips. Making sure your lips are slightly apart, not *and we mean NEVER* wide open.
#5 Apply a little pressure. At this point, when your partner is applying a little pressure, reciprocate with a little pressure too, while making your lips linger a few more seconds compared to when you are kissing your pets or family.
#6 At this time, you and your partner might be getting into the groove.
#7 Hooray! You’re now kissing!
#8 Now, you’re ready for the next step.
This is just kissing, only with mouth a little more open and with tongue. The rule is, if you’re using your tongue—voila!—you’re Frenching.
Once you get the hang of Intro Kissing, your partner may move into French kissing, which means they are liking what they’re doing and how you’re reciprocating. Good job! Yay!
#1 You will probably feel the kiss intensifying, and your partner might tease you with their tongue, or they may be opening their mouth a little bit more.
#2 This is the time when you open your mouth a little too and do as your partner does.
#3 If you’re the one leading, you can initiate the Frenching by gently touching your partner’s tongue with your tongue, and then gently pull it back into your mouth.
#4 Don’t stick your tongue into your partner’s mouth without warning, and don’t EVER stick out your tongue in and out of your partner’s mouth. Unless you want to have your first and last kiss right there and then.
#5 Remember to come up for breath every once in a while.
#6 Also give yourself and your partner a few minutes *or a few intensifying Intro Kisses* before you go in with the French.
So things are really heating up and you find your hands all over your partner’s body—what’s next? The Make-Out Kiss.
This kiss requires smooth multi-tasking skills. Just in case you are clueless, you are making out when you have your arms around each other and your tongues are really going at it and you are both kissing for longer than 30 seconds at a time. Your hands will be all over each other, and you both want to be as close as possible to each other without taking your clothes off.
But, but, but…
Before you even start kissing, you have to remember these tips, though:
#1 Be prepared. First of all, it helps you’re reading this now so that you have an idea of what could happen once your lips touch that of your date’s. Are you ready to make out or take it to the next level? These are the things you should also be prepared for.
#2 Pop a mint. You may think you have your first kiss down pat, but if your breath smells like the garlic steak fries you just ate, then say bye to more kisses. Make sure you have clean, fresh, and kissable breath.
#3 Pucker up. Ensure you have soft, supple, kissable lips. Exfoliate your lips by lightly scrubbing it with a soft cloth or some coarse sugar the night before your date. Make sure to pack some ChapStick as well, but make sure you’re not wearing anything too slick, thick, sticky, or slimy when the moment comes.
#4 Keep it private. Make sure you’re both somewhere private and comfortable, where there are no prying eyes. For a memorable first kiss, be in a special place away from spectators so you can focus on each other and enjoy the moment all to yourselves.
#5 Make sure you’re on the same page. Don’t be the one leaning in with your pouty lips while your partner or date is talking on the phone or eating. It’s imperative you both want to kiss each other at that very moment—and trust us, you’ll know the moment when it comes.
#6 Take it slow. Savor the moment. It’s your first time anyway, so make the most out of it. By not rushing it, you’re making it more special, and it gives you plenty of time and opportunity to really be in the moment.
#7 Touch. Don’t be afraid to give in to the urge to touch your partner. Graze your fingers gently through their hair, touch their neck, hold their arms, or put your hands on their cheeks. Do what feels natural, just don’t be sitting there like a statue with only your lips moving.
#8 Express yourself. When you’re caught up in the moment, it’s still easy to send and receive mixed signals. At this point, touching your partner a certain way and moving your lips a specific way is a great way to communicate what you want—if you want to stop or take things further.
So there you have it, the ultimate guide to that amazingly memorable first kiss.