There are all sorts of reasons why we fall in love. But there are a few key things that men tend to need and want to foster their love for someone. Falling in love is more than just physical chemistry, although that is one part of the equation. It’s also about getting your needs met and feeling connected to someone.
13 ways to increase your chances of him falling in love
If you’re trying to get your man to fall in love with you the way you love him, here are a few ingredients that every love recipe needs.
#1 Make him feel accomplished. If you want a guy to feel instantly loved and in love, then tell him how much you value him. Men want to be admired and feel like they can provide the support that a woman needs. Stroke his ego, not artificially, but by telling him how you really feel to make him feel good about himself. A guy loves the woman who makes him love himself.
#2 Provide unconditional love. The reason most guys act so “tough” is because they fear reprisal or not being accepted. They act as if they are so self-assured that they don’t need anyone. But the truth is that they need a woman more than they want to admit. The thing that makes them fall in love the hardest is knowing that you will always love and accept them for who they are, whoever that may be.
#3 Allow him to show his weaknesses. No one likes to watch the man they love be reduced to a crying mess, but there will come a time in every man’s life when he will be less than strong in the face of adversity. For some men, that may take losing someone special in their life. For others, it may be something subtler. The key to getting a man to fall in love with you is to be supportive and allow him to show you what is really in his heart instead of the tough exterior that he has been conditioned to show the world.
#4 Be his cheerleader. Every guy wants a cheerleader, whether he plays sports or not. The allure of a cheerleader is that they are always in your corner to encourage you, and even when the chips are down, they are there to pick you up. A guy wants a girl who makes him not only feel better but also to strive to be a better person. If you want him to fall in love with you, show him all the positives in the world around him, and de-emphasize the negative. Show him all the possibilities of what life with you can be.
#5 Be confident. A guy wants a girl who is confident in herself and who knows what she wants. When men are ready to settle down into a long-term relationship, they want someone who can be their better half. That involves being happy and confident with who you are so that, in turn, you can be happy and confident in your relationship.
#6 He wants to know he is your priority. If there is one thing that a guy wants to feel before falling in love, it is that he is a priority in his your life. Making him number-one can help him bond and fall in love with you. If you are always putting him on the back burner or making him feel like everyone else’s needs come before his, it will be difficult for him to feel the special connection that he needs to fall in love with you.
#7 Always keep him guessing. A man falls in love with a woman who continues to be somewhat of a mystery. When things start to get a little too comfortable, don’t be afraid to spice things up. A little mystery will keep him on his toes and make him believe that you are something he should always remember to be grateful for.
#8 Let your best self shine. Guys like to be envied. If you want a guy to fall in love with you, be that girl who all his friends want. Turn on the charm, be engaging, and always be warm and welcoming to others. If you come across as the rude shrew who won’t ever give him space or the freedom he wants, then his friends are probably going to bad mouth you, which will only turn him away from loving you. The key is to make everyone want to be with you, not without you.
#9 Get along with his mom. This one can be really tough sometimes. Whether he is a momma’s boy or not, he is going to care what his mother has to say about you. Even if she is an evil witch, it’s important for you to smile and stay neutral. It won’t ever work to pit him in the middle or make him choose. It’s best to just let her “win,” agree with her, and try your best to hold class in the presence of her possible negativity.
#10 Be self-reliant, yet not too self-reliant. A man wants someone who can survive without him, but who absolutely can’t survive without him at the same time. When he feels that you are too clingy, he will pull away. When he feels that you are too standoffish or don’t need him, it can have the same effect. The perfect balance is somewhere in the middle. Work on your own success, but don’t be in competition with him. When in doubt, work as a team, rather than always being separate.