Do you ever wonder why some girls seem to have tons of luck in love? They meet Mr. or Ms. Incredible the very first time they try online dating. Or an old crush shows up one day and now your BFF’s got a rock on her finger the size of a golf ball. Or she has a happy accident with a hottie she just bumps into at a baseball game. Seriously? Meanwhile, you’re at home playing solitaire, wondering why you can’t seem to find the right person.
The truth is, it’s more than luck that causes fortune to smile on someone. So don’t leave your love life entirely up to chance. Here are some great tips to make Lady Luck work for you and tip the “odds” in your favor.
1. Change Your Game
Are you stuck in a routine, doing the same thing over and over with no success? Then change your game. Change the playing field. Change something. Go off your well-beaten path. Try a different hiking spot, take your pooch to a new dog park, or take an exotic trip. A friend of mine went to Cabo San Lucas to relax and “get away from it all.” Her first day there, she met a guy. They married several years later.
So come up with several fun, fresh ideas of your own. One of them may be just the ticket to having that lucky encounter.
2. Feel Like a Winner
I was always certain I was going to find “the one.” Even as I got older and my family playfully poked “Old Maid” jabs at me, I knew in my heart it was going to happen when the time was right. And then I met my guy. We got married in Maui and we had a beautiful daughter together (another thing others believed I may be “too late” for, but I beat the odds on that one, too).
Years later, when I got divorced and was tossed back into the dating pool (only now as a single mom), I felt assured I was going to find someone even better. And I did. I’m now engaged to the most loving, giving man I’ve ever met.
Whatever my relationship status, my feelings about love never changed. So feel like a winner in the game of love and feel like it’s happening right now. Eventually, you’ll get there for real.
3. Increase Your Odds
Instead of cocooning in your apartment, revising your online dating profile for the 10th time, posting funny cat videos on Facebook, or trying to win that “Candy Crush” competition, step away from the computer. Take a break from social media and get social, face-to-face. If someone likes you in person, it’s much better than if he or she “likes” you on Facebook. I’m just saying.
So if a friend’s meeting co-workers for drinks after work, ask if you can tag along. Or ask a girlfriend to try out a new gym class with you (and let her be your wing woman). Or host a potluck dinner and ask each person to bring a side dish and a single friend.