If you’re like millions of single people, you’ll be going online this month in hopes of finding your next date — or potential mate. January is the peak month of online dating, with dating sites typically reporting a 25 to 30 percent increase in new members registrations between Dec. 26 and Feb. 14, as well as an increase in site searches and communication between members. As a relationship advice columnist, I have 15 excellent online dating tips that will save you time, energy, embarrassment, and the pain of sitting through long, drawn-out dates that leave you feeling deflated and depressed.
1. Post a recent photo of yourself that’s flattering and actually looks like you.Chances are you have one really fantastic photo of yourself that was taken at just the right angle where you look ever so slightly like Jennifer Lawrence or Ryan Gosling. Don’t post that picture. Post the picture that actually looks like you — you on a good day (in great lighting). You want people to know what to expect and not be disappointed when it’s you who shows up for your date. Here are some great tips for choosing the right profile photos.
2. Be unique and specific in your profile. Everyone “likes to have fun,” okay? Everyone “likes hanging out with friends,” “listening to music,” and “going out.” So tell people something they don’t already know about you, like that the beer you brewed in your backyard last summer won first prize in a home brewing contest, or that you do a brilliant version of “Tainted Love” at karaoke. Being specific helps you stand out and it also gives an easy conversation opener.