If you've been dishing with your friends about how the guy you're dating "just doesn't get it," here's your chance to school him on what women really want. Whether you're irritated that his eyes are glued to his phone instead of paying attention to you, or because he's too clingy and doesn't seem to have a life of his own, it's time to politely explain that these aren't traits that you want from someone who should be trying to woo you. So instead of sighing, rolling your eyes and assuming that he'll never change, try suggesting these six tips that will surely make courting a lot more rewarding.
1. Listen, don't just head nod.
Men have often been told to "listen more," which of course is something we should all do if we want to have meaningful interactions and develop healthy relationships with other people. However, many guys have taken this advice TOO FAR. As a result, they often think that if they simply nod their head and agree with everything you say, they'll somehow possess the power to attract you!
Suggest that he offer a thoughtful or provoking opinion -- or challenge a statement in response to what you're saying. Let him know that this kind of feedback will make you want to find out more about him, rather than trying to speak to a bland "head nodder."
2. Be a man with a plan.
Tell your guy that he should be bolder and take charge in certain situations rather than just going along with whatever you want to do. A man with a plan is far more attractive than a guy who succumbs to your every whim. We all love the element of surprise and uncertainty, and women respect a man a lot more when he has the confidence to take the lead.
For example, he can say "Thursday night, I'm taking you to my favorite restaurant," instead of "So... what would you like us to do?" Guys sometimes need to exercise their alpha dominance, which doesn't mean that they need to act like some sort of Neanderthal or become loud and obnoxious. It just means having the insight to know when and how we need to just 'let go' sometimes.