You may think that just because you’ve locked your hubby into a lifetime of love with you, you’ve got it all in the bag. Not quite! Marriage takes maintenance, and maintaining love is no short order! Just like married women, married men still need to be shown appreciation, surprises, and seduction. That’s right, you need to learn how to seduce your husband. The chase isn’t over just because you’re now in happily wedded bliss.
One of the best ways to keep the spark alive in any relationship is to treat your partner like their love is not a given. Of course, we know it is to a certain extent in marriage, but treating your partner like someone who still needs to be sought after helps them feel wanted, desired, and super sexy. Trust us.
Here are 5 reasons why it’s a smart idea to seduce your husband on the daily:
#1 It keeps your relationship fun, interesting, and exciting.
#2 It makes your partner feel appreciated.
#3 You appear more desirable to your mate, both sexually and emotionally.
#4 It makes your partner feel desired.
#5 It’s damn sexy to be seduced.
Men and women have different approaches to how they want to be enticed. Because we’re dealing with the male mind, we’re going to be looking at fun, unique ways to seduce your husband.
Sex, Sex, Sex – The Ultimate Seduction
What’s one big benefit of tying the knot with your best friend? Sex, sex, and sex! Marriage seems like a given for access to easy, guaranteed sex anytime you or your partner desire it. However, with complications from work, taking care of small children, anxiety, and the fact that it is just so readily available may have put a bit of a damper on your sex life.
The good news? It doesn’t have to be that way! One of the big components of seducing your husband is to sexualize your relationship.
Back when you were seeing each other naked, there was an element of mystery, surprise, and seduction with every kiss, every touch, and every private moment. That’s not to say that sex now is boring or unsatisfying. In fact, it’s probably great. It just isn’t *new*. While you can’t exactly erase the fact that you have already been intimate, you can find ways to bring that spark back into your bedroom. Here are a couple of ways you can make sex the focus of your relationship like it used to be.
#1 Always be up for it. Sex feels fantastic, but it also bonds a couple together emotionally. Periods and migraines aside, seducing your husband can be as easy as having more sex, or having different sex. Screw on the couch or in the shower instead of on the bed, explore new positions, buy sex games, or get monthly sex boxes to spice up your already fabulous bedroom antics. The idea that you’re up for new and dirty ideas will be a major turn-on for your guy.
husband is by pretending to be someone else. Dress up as risqué as you would have when you first met, and instruct him to meet you at a classy bar in one hour. Have him come up and order you a drink, as though he were hitting on a stranger.
Follow up by role-playing the whole night through. Drinks and dinner. Make up entirely new identities and finish off the night by having a “one night stand” with your marriage mate. You can even kink it up a notch by never breaking character and insisting that you get a hotel room to get down and dirty.
#3 Stop changing in front of one another. Like we said, comfort is great in relationships, but it takes a bit of the magic away. One way to combat getting used to one another is by changing out of eyesight of your partner, even if you’re changing into pjs! This withholding seduction technique will make your husband all the more excited to watch you strip down the next time you’re getting dirty.
#4 Don’t forget to make out. Just because you *can* jump right into sex doesn’t mean you *should*. Don’t forget the art of making out just because you’re married. Take the time to seduce, touch, and tease your husband with a fantastic make-out session. Instead of rushing to rip your clothes off, stay buttoned up in the most fantastically scandalous way possible. For example, throw on some schoolgirl lingerie, or stay dressed in a short skirt that will hike up when you mount your man for kisses. He’ll love it, we swear.
#5 Seduce your husband via text. There are plenty of sexy ways you can seduce your husband via text. Take a naughty picture and send it on over to your man while he’s at work.
You can go all out with nudie pics, but if you’re a little freaked out by the zillions of things that can go wrong when sexting nudes, try something on the more seductive side, instead. For example, throw a thong, vibrator, and handcuffs on the bed, snap a photo, and send it to your man with the tagline: “What you’ll be doing tonight.” Or even something as simple as you sucking your finger and giving those seducing Bambi eyes will be enough to get his motor running.
If you’re not one for imagery, seduce your husband with your words. Phrases like, “I need you inside me right now,” “I want your dick in my mouth,” “I’m getting so wet just thinking about you coming home” are all perfectly acceptable sexy-talk to text to your man!
#6 Seduce him orally. There’s no secret pun in this statement. We’re getting right to it: seduce your husband with a blowjob! What’s one thing both parties likely want more of once the marriage years start piling up? More oral sex!
Ask to go for a romantic drive with your man, then pull the ole switch-a-roo and satisfy your hubby mid-drive with a surprise BJ. Let’s face it: oral sex is fantastic, and surprise oral only makes it that much more exciting.
#7 Seduce him with respect. When we get comfortable with our marriage mate, it usually results in great things. Surefire great sex complete with orgasms by both parties, and not to mention, no more leaving the room to pass gas. Being comfortable also means getting to wear pjs while you Netflix binge together on your days off. However, too much comfort can make the relationship feel stale, at times. Another thing we tend to slack on? Showing respect.
Many studies cite that women are looking for love in a relationship, and men are looking for respect. “So what, my husband doesn’t need my love?!” Settle down, little missus! This may sound cold to the women reading, but let’s dissect the word a little and figure out what getting respect really means to your man.
Respect means to honor, to hold in esteem, and to show consideration and regard to. Basically, everything you would show when you love someone, but said in a more manly way!