You don't get a second chance to make a first impression, and neither does the first gift you give a significant other. Whether it's a birthday, anniversary, holiday, or just-because gift, present-picking can feel like pop quiz on your partner. Need help making sure you pass the first-gift test? We asked victims of bad kissers at Marie Claire Ask & Answer — Marie Claire's online Q&A community for dating, sex, and relationship advice — for their guidelines to choosing the perfect gift. Here's what they said:
For sirkermittsg, gifts that are "personalized and that show that you are listening to them are the best kind." She suggests you first look to your partner's interests. "Look for something that fits his interests but is small, not too expensive, and that you know he might not have. For example if he likes to ride a bicycle but does not have a water bottle on it....then a bottle plus a rack to go on the bike." Pay attention to the hints that your significant other leaves you, either consciously or not, about what they wish they had or have been meaning to get for themselves.
Be Sweet, Not Corny
In the early stages of dating, hold off on going overboard and declaring your undying love in a gift. Resist the urge to put lots of heart decorations and "I love you" all over something you make," warns sirkermittsg. Most guys are not really into that sort of thing and well they may not give you the huge smile you were looking for."
Show That You Care
"In this relationship my first gift was for my birthday and was a $100 spa package," sarahsoda17told us. "I kind of shrugged it off as impersonal and the easy way out but then realized he knew how stressed I was as a student and wanted me to have some time to myself to be pampered. It wasn't extravagant but it was perfect!"
Reference Your Bond
Strengthen your bond by getting your significant other something that reminds them of the two of you as a couple, like a favorite shared activity, band, or an inside joke. sarahsoda17's second gift from her boyfriend was "an NFL Steelers jersey because they are my favorite team and football is something we bond over. It was really personal and I loved it!" She got creative with some great tunes. "The first gift I gave him was a burnt CD with all the songs that reminded me of him or had something to do with our relationship or a time we shared together where the song was playing. I wrote a long letter explaining why I picked each song and he LOVED IT! It was cheap and simple but very personal!"